Monthly Archives: January 2009

Snow, Snow, Snow!

So we don’t get alot of snow here, mainly ice, but this week we had a good old fashioned snow storm. It started Monday evening, and by Wednesday morning we had 10 inches in the back yard! That might not seem like alot to you “northern folks” but here that is a ton of snow. It basically closed the entire city down because we don’t have the city services to deal with that amount of snow. Some of the roads aren’t even cleared out yet, and will likely not be cleared. However, the unexpected snow day gave Bekah the rare opportunity to play in the snow. She may get to play in a dusting of snow once a year, but this time… there was so much snow! We were able to get her sled out and play for a bit.

Bekah loving the snow

Rick pulling her on the sled

Our first snow ball fight

Freezing Mommy!

Year of the Ox

Last night, Mom and Dad watched Bekah so that Rick and I could go to the celebration of the Chinese New Year, the Year of the Ox. There was a show a local university that included dancing, Chinese music, and skits. It was wovnderful! While alot of the skits were in Mandarin (the official language of China), they did translate it for us. The dancing was just amazing. They had professional dragon dancers, armature dancers, and then children dancing… they were so adorable. It was a wonderful night, but I really miss Bekah… so I’m headed out to get her (at 8am…..)

Bekah’s Gymnastics Love Affair

The first time Bekah saw gymnastics was this past summer while we were watching the summer Olympics. Bekah was entranced from the start, and after watching the competition I would ind her walking along any sort of raised curb pretending she was doing gymnastics! Rick and I talked about it… should we enroll her in a class? She was already taking ballet, and while she loved the classes she refused to preform in the recitals (she would stand there during the performances, sucking her thumb and crying). Would gymnastics be any different? Could we afford it? Is it something that we wanted to do also, because as everyone knows… it’s not just the children in the sport, it’s also the parent (especially at this age!). Ultimately we decided to enroll her, and it is honestly the best thing we have done for her!

Bekah loves gymnastics.

I was a bit nervous at the first class, would she willingly go into the gym with out us? (The parents are not allowed to enter the gym floor, they can watch from a parent observation gallery above the gym floor.) That first class, and her love of anything gymnastics, set the tone for the rest of the classes. Her coach, Miss Dena, came out to get the girls, she was very excited, enthused, and yet nurturing. Bekah loved her instantly. She left with out even looking back! (I was amazed) Ever since then, the bond, and trust, she has with Miss Dena is wonderful! Bekah is doing things on the gym floor that amazes me. She can be a bit reserved when trying new things, but because Miss Dena is there to catch her if needed, Bekah does them!

These pictures are from her most recent class.


Gracious Acceptance

Why is it so hard for women to accept compliments graciously? I’ve been thinking about this alot recently after a girlfriend of mine complimented me on my weight loss. Instead of saying thank you and leaving it at that, I told her “thanks, but you don’t see what is under the sweater. I still have a ton of belly fat!” Why did I do that? Is it that in accepting a compliment I am accepting validation of myself, something that is so hard for many to do? I want to break that habit.

My goal for 2009 (and notice that I say goal… it’s too late in January to make a resolution!) is to learn to accept compliments with grace.

Hello Everyone!

So it appears that everyone blogs these days. People blog to have a place to keep up with family, to get their profound (or not so) thoughts out in the public domain, to teach something (cooking, knitting, sewing…), even the CEO of my company has a blog! So, why not us? Rick and I have been talking about this for a couple weeks now, what a better place to keep our family up to date on the things that we are doing, share pictures, etc.

So, here it is! Our family blog.

I used to be fat.

I used to be fat. Although I don’t think I was ever hugely over weight, at least that is my opinion. Now if you had calculated my BMI, you would have seen that it was 37.2. which puts me in the obese category. One of the calculators that I had looked at indicated that 91% of the American female population weigh less then I did. At my highest weight, I was 217lbs. Measuring a measly 5’4″, I guess that really was a lot. Currently, I weigh 149lbs and am trying to get down to my goal weight of 135lbs. There was really no “ah moment” where I woke up and said “enough”! I don’t know what happened, I guess I got tired of shopping at Lane Bryant, not going swimming with my daughter, and generally being embarrassed at how I looked. So it just happened. One day I made the commitment to lose the weight. It started with my just going to the gym 3 days per week, but I soon found that was not enough to really effect a change. I started talking to people that I knew who had lost weight, and the resounding commonality they all had was the combination of diet and exercise. So, I joined Weight Watchers. Two years, 70 lbs, and 5 pant sizes later, here I am! I still have a bit of weight to lose (like 15 lbs), but I now am in a healthy weight range… and if you calculated my BMI, you’d find out that I am in the “normal” range!

You know even after losing 70 lbs, it’s funny the things I find myself focusing on. I look in the mirror and don’t like the “belly jell-o” that I still have, or the jiggle thighs. I find myself critiquing how I look in each outfit. Do I look fat in this? Does it cling to my belly? With as far as I’ve come, one would think that I could let go of the negative body talk. Nope. It’s like an old friend. A crotchety old friend, but one that I am comfortable with. This thought process was brought home to me when I read Valerie Frankel’s memoir, “Thin is the New Happy”. It’s her exploration into her negative self image and breaking free of yo-yo diets that she subjected herself to for 35 years. (35 years!) During the exploration of her dieting issues, she realized that a large majority of her thoughts were taken up with negative self talk, consciously and unconsciously. Reading that book has helped me to realize that alot of the issues with food that I have stemmed from emotional eating, insanely low self esteem, and a hugely negative self image (see above regarding “Do I look fat in this?”). So, what can I do about it? I am trying to let go of the negative, learning to love myself for who and what I am, and be proud of what I’ve accomplished.

One main Weight Watcher’s mottois “This is a lifestyle change, not a diet”. I think the key to changing the lifestyle is to, not only change how you eat, but to also change how you think about yourself. I wonder if that is how the successful weight loss maintainers did it?

Welcome!

Welcome to my blog Grace for the Ordinary Life!

If you stumbled across this blog, then I want to welcome you to my crazy, love filled, amazing life. If you have been a long time follower of my blog, then I want to thank you for your continued support of my family, and know that I cherish each and every one of you and pray daily for you.

My name is Brandie, and I am a wife, mother, friend, employee, but above all I am a daughter of God and am wholly devoted to living my life to his glory, and daily amazed by his abundant grace in my life.

My husband and I have been married for almost fourteen years, and have been blessed with one beautiful daughter. She is a fantastic mix of girlhood wonder, drama and sass, and a mini adult all wrapped up in an eight year old body.

She was diagnosed with ADHD – Combined Type late in 2011 after two frustrating years of negative behavior reports from school, outbursts, hitting, defiance, and a number of attention seeking behaviors (she used to bark in class, stand on her chair, insert disruptive behavior here…. and she more than likely did it).

Thus began our immersion into the world of ADHD.

To say that I was dragged kicking and screaming into the world of ADHD is an understatement. I was one of those parents that did not, in any way shape or form, believe that ADHD was a disease. I was the one standing up saying that ADHD was nothing more than parents/educators excusing their lack of control of the children in their care.

God has an amazing capacity to teach humility, and show His grace in ways that one may never see coming. He has chosen to bless us with the shepherding of this amazing child, who challenges and engages us each and every day. Not only has she challenged how her father and I viewed raising children, but she has challenged us to redefine our relationship with each other, forcing us to bind together as a unit more than we ever have in the past.

I am humbled that He would choose us to teach this wonderful little girl about life and His grace.

Through our learning about what ADHD is, and how it impacts children and families, we discovered that her father also has ADHD. Dealing with adult ADHD has been a challenge on a whole different level! Teaching a child to manage their daily struggles related to ADHD is one thing, but to help retrain an adult to manage their ADHD is an entirely new challenge, but one that helps to shed light on the reasons behind many of the issues that we struggle with in our marriage.

To learn that, not only has God entrusted us with his precious daughter, but that he trusts me enough to be what my husband needs to help him draw closer to God is also humbling! This experience teaches me what grace is every day!

But, this blog is not about ADHD and its impact on our lives. While that is a big part of our lives, it is much, much more.

This blog is about living our life seeking the full glory of God! You will see daily activities such as sporting events, food, crafting, and fun. You will also see work/life balance issues; both the hubs and I work outside the home. He is 20 plus years military, and I work in animal health. But above all, you will see a family that strives to live every day with God as our focus.

Welcome to my crazy, fun filled, loving, life! I am so blessed that you have joined us for this journey!

 

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