Monthly Archives: April 2013

Speaking Before I Think (or is that thinking before I speak?)

I have been struggling with bitter feelings over the past year or so. Bitterness towards a situation that I felt wronged in. I let that bitterness dwell inside of me, taking root and festering.

Poisoning me.

Poisoning my thoughts.

Poisoning my actions.

I held fast to the thoughts that I was the wronged party. Never allowing that I had a role in the fallout. Never conceding that there was another view than the one I clung to.

Have you ever been there?

Looking back, I know that I have, many times.

Today, in my inbox, I received this newsletter from Proverbs 31 Ministries (one of my favorite women’s ministries) about how your words have the ability to create or destroy.  Now this is not ground breaking news. We all know that what we say, and how we say it, has a profound effect on the recipient, but today this spoke directly to my heart.

It made me re-evaluate the bitterness that I have allowed to fester in me.

What I saw when I did so was not pretty. I am ashamed to say that I used my words to destroy, not build up or lift up another.

I know we have all done that in the past, but God challenges us to not let discouraging words pass our lips, to lift up our brother in love.

But above all, God challenges us to show others grace. Grace that he gave us.

As hard as it is, and as wronged as I feel, grace means to let the festering bitterness go.

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